Thank you for your honesty. We are not bodies to be consumed. We are not “kept” because of a waistline. We are loved because God made us worthy of love, full stop. We have to believe that truth for ourselves.
So good Rebecca!!!! I can’t even begin to tell you how “unwifeable” I felt all my life. Reached a point i never believed I would become a wife AND a mother. It was never even a “dream.” I never experienced “baby fever,” and the first diaper I ever changed was my own daughter’s. The more I read, the more I gave thanks to God that He does respond to the true cry of our hearts… and He will respond to yours too. And that is part of my life testimony. 🥹
Oh, Natalie <3 This is beautiful, and you are such a beautiful and Christ-like wife and mother. Forever remembering your sweet spirit — God bless you and your family!!
Thank you Rebecca, I can’t tell you how on time this was. I’ve been on a similar journey, a new wellness journey that started off kind of scary but later turned exciting & freeing bc I was bringing life back into my body by moving it (aerobics, Pilates). Suddenly it became less about true freedom found in seeing & treating my body in a Holy and Sacred way to using my body as a means to exercise control over it — to “steal it” and “make it mine”. It’s a false sense of freedom indeed & your comparison to attempting to make yourself something eat resonated with me. A quiet rebellion — thank you, again 🫶🏽.
This is so good Kyannah. I’m still getting the hang of it. I was just telling my best friend I’m ready for my day-to-day fitness things to become “normal” to me, so it can stop being an obsession. Just a hump to get over, I suppose. I’m praying I can get to a place similar to yours soon!!
“Hearing stories of bigger women only being appreciated in the bedroom, but to avoid being shamed by his friends or to be respected as the most important guy in the room, the slim woman gets the ring instead whether the bigger woman was actually what he wanted or not. Both bodies were used as pawns in his game for power and respect. “
No. Notes. As visceral as it is to admit out loud, it’s important to call it out.
That said, I’m a person with a midsize body that stays relatively the same whether I’m hitting the gym lifting heavy weights or not doing anything.
While it can be frustrating to not see the projected ideal looking back at me in the mirror, it’s also a nice reminder that this is simply the Creator’s design for me, and no amount of cool sculpting, liposuction, or tummy tuck can take away its beauty.
Dare to enjoy the space you take up.
Extremely noteworthy is that BMIs are part of the colonial era and healthy bodies need better representation. There’s echoes of colonialism and Rome’s empire still today. (Kind of my niche if you’ll excuse my shameless plug)
"There is no true “wifeable body”. It is whatever body a wife has" ❤️❤️
Oh Rebecca, reading this felt like returning home. Thank you, friend. 💌
🥹thank you, Charity <33
"I realized I was just trying to become something to eat." >> not eating ourselves so we can look like something to eat for somone else. Imagine. 😭
Sick scam, I tell you 😭
Thank you for your honesty. We are not bodies to be consumed. We are not “kept” because of a waistline. We are loved because God made us worthy of love, full stop. We have to believe that truth for ourselves.
Thank you again, Rebecca.
This was holy conviction wrapped in grace.
Six, thank you for reading! <3
period!! ❣️
So good Rebecca!!!! I can’t even begin to tell you how “unwifeable” I felt all my life. Reached a point i never believed I would become a wife AND a mother. It was never even a “dream.” I never experienced “baby fever,” and the first diaper I ever changed was my own daughter’s. The more I read, the more I gave thanks to God that He does respond to the true cry of our hearts… and He will respond to yours too. And that is part of my life testimony. 🥹
Oh, Natalie <3 This is beautiful, and you are such a beautiful and Christ-like wife and mother. Forever remembering your sweet spirit — God bless you and your family!!
Thank you Rebecca, I can’t tell you how on time this was. I’ve been on a similar journey, a new wellness journey that started off kind of scary but later turned exciting & freeing bc I was bringing life back into my body by moving it (aerobics, Pilates). Suddenly it became less about true freedom found in seeing & treating my body in a Holy and Sacred way to using my body as a means to exercise control over it — to “steal it” and “make it mine”. It’s a false sense of freedom indeed & your comparison to attempting to make yourself something eat resonated with me. A quiet rebellion — thank you, again 🫶🏽.
This is so good Kyannah. I’m still getting the hang of it. I was just telling my best friend I’m ready for my day-to-day fitness things to become “normal” to me, so it can stop being an obsession. Just a hump to get over, I suppose. I’m praying I can get to a place similar to yours soon!!
Thank you for always writing with unflinching honesty. I love everything you said here 💌 love u
Ouu this is so good❤️❤️
“Hearing stories of bigger women only being appreciated in the bedroom, but to avoid being shamed by his friends or to be respected as the most important guy in the room, the slim woman gets the ring instead whether the bigger woman was actually what he wanted or not. Both bodies were used as pawns in his game for power and respect. “
No. Notes. As visceral as it is to admit out loud, it’s important to call it out.
That said, I’m a person with a midsize body that stays relatively the same whether I’m hitting the gym lifting heavy weights or not doing anything.
While it can be frustrating to not see the projected ideal looking back at me in the mirror, it’s also a nice reminder that this is simply the Creator’s design for me, and no amount of cool sculpting, liposuction, or tummy tuck can take away its beauty.
Dare to enjoy the space you take up.
Extremely noteworthy is that BMIs are part of the colonial era and healthy bodies need better representation. There’s echoes of colonialism and Rome’s empire still today. (Kind of my niche if you’ll excuse my shameless plug)
This one hits close to home... I appreciate your realness and honesty 🫂✨